February Thoughts.

In the spirit of the season, I've been thinking about (what I've been thinking about for the last year and some change) romantic love and friendships. I've decided this year I'm taking the initiative to pull a page from the book of Aubrey Graham and wear less (a lil) and go out more to not only find my man, but also to find a group of women who can support me in the way that I'm looking for at this stage in my life and I them. As you can tell from my December series that I've been thinking about the type of friend I've been and the types of people I want in my life who I call friend.

So this week, when I would have sent Galentine's Day boxes to friends, instead I kept my coins and went out on Valentines Day with a "Baddies" group here who met up at a local restaurant. I met a few women and hope that something comes from this as they all seemed like a great time and were also IN THEIR THIRTIES, which is huge for me. Everyone I've seemed to meet so far has been in their 20's and while that's not bad, I'd rather not feel like the old-head in my friendships lol.

I also did a little digging this week and found out that a girl I went to college with moved here and we're meeting up next weekend! I'm happy she's also someone who was very kind in college and I'm sure she is in adulthood too, so I'll update on what happens when we meet up. I want to be so intentional in my Day 2 friendships, because from what I've learned so far is that keeping people around for the sake of history is DEAD! We're connecting with people who actually WANT to be in your life and will show up in ways that make you feel seen and heard.

My hope is that I never neglect my relationship with self or friends when I finally am blessed with a romantic relationship and eventually a marriage. As much as I want to be a good wife and mother, I also want to show up for the people who supported me along the way to that new reality.

Now for romantic love...I've been getting beat upside the head from Krystal Franklin and her dating perspective as a single (not married I mean) woman in her 30's who has dated, gone out alone and even sent a man a drink at the bar. The traditional side of me always clutches my pearls when she says this, but the progressive side of me cheers her on and encourages me to take initiative in that way too! I don't think I can be that forward, but when that day comes, ya'll know I'll report back.

My plan for when Spring has sprung and the sun sets after 7pm, I will be outside baby. Maybe a drink or event during the week, but definitely going to the things and meeting people. I want to feel so supported by my village that I even in the moment I can say "wow, I prayed for this."

Well, that's all for now...byeee!