Throwback Post: Tia & Tamera.

 I have a ton of shows on my To Be Watched list and one I was able to get to last year was Tia & Tamera! If you're over a certain age, I'm sure you remember the Style Network (RIP) which is where their reality show aired 10 years ago.

Back then I remember being so happy for Tia as she was preparing to be a first time mom and for Tamera as she merged her life with her husband-to-be. Watching the show back as someone who's now close in age to their age when filming, I had a lot of emotions as I saw that they too are just growin' through it all.

Season 1 was all about Tamera planning a wedding to her college sweetheart while prepping to jump back into acting and Tia balancing work, family, and pregnancy. Though only 8 episodes long, season 1 definitely set the tone of what was to come. Seeing Tamera working so hard to shed this societal image of being "the good girl" and step into being the fine ass woman she is really resonated with me. I have always struggled with presenting an image of myself that other people have put on me and in a way didn't know who I was at one point. It was refreshing to see someone who's established and deal with that then reject it in her own way.

It was also interesting to see people who we'd believe to be in sync just due to the twin thing, still deal with communication issues. Because the communication was not in the room, babes. Communication is difficult anyway though because while you may have pure intentions, if the person you're communicating with perceives what you're saying differently, well you're screwed...Or you can try to talk it out like adults of course.

I still can't believe Tamera expected more from her pregnant sister during her wedding then, due to guilt, asked her friend Andrea to be Maid of Honor since she was "doing everything anyway". I also can't believe Tia used the weekend of Tamera's wedding to have a babymoon with her husband likeeee ya'll could've had a staycation somewhere another time because this weekend is about celebrating Tamera. Yes, I'm very big on being present for people especially the big moments.

Now season 2 is where Tia was figuring out new mom life (with a smidge of mom guilt sprinkled in there) and life post The Game. Tamera was juggling her time between 2 cities, going on auditions, and it was now her turn to be pregnant. They also dabbled in some business ventures and went on a trip to track down family in the Bahamas.

To me, the communication issue was amplified this season, but one thing about it you could NEVER question the love they had for one another. In this season we also see their favorite cousin, Jerome, realizing that his relationship with his sister-cousins would no longer be the same now that they both had spouses and kids and also saw Andrea's support as Tamera's friend through her pregnancy, but still feel like she was losing a bit of her friend through this new journey in life.

Jerome and Andrea's feelings were what resonated with me most in that second season as a lot of my friends are in the same stages in life both Tia and Tamera were in this series. Either getting married, already married and pregnant, or married and raising a child. Even though I'm ecstatic for my friends and their major life decisions, selfishly I, too, have had fears of my relationship changing with my friends once they start their families because I'm not a mom or wife and can't relate on that level. Watching them have the same feelings just let me know I'm not as alone as I thought with that line of thinking. It also reminded me that adult relationships are HEAVY on intention. If you want the person in your life you'll make sure they're there. Simple.

Since finishing my binge, I've wondered if they'd be open to going back to TV especially now that they're in their 40's, Tamera is no longer on The Real (booked and busy with these movies tho), and Tia is healing through her divorce (and wearing many hats as a cook, host, and business woman) . I know they already share so much of themselves on social media, but the show gave me a deeper understanding of them individually and I'd love to see their journeys 10 years later from their first show. If you've made it this far and you're interested in watching for yourself, you can watch Seasons 1 and 2 of Tia & Tamera for free99 on Tubi!

That's all for now! Byeee.